Today I am celebrating my youngest child's birthday. Sharing in his joy. Being filled with gratitude for the gift of him in my life.
Also on this day, I have read an email from one of my siblings. A woman who never fails to see the bad in everything. A woman who has most willingly created an unhappy existence for herself, and who becomes frustrated and deeply angry that her siblings are not enthusiastically joining her on her path of misery.
Sometimes I wish for an hour on a therapist's couch to recover from my interactions with this sister. How do I hold this relationship together at all? By reminding myself that no amount of therapy will ever relieve her of her inner demons. Primarily because she doesn't understand her need for help. For that I can pity her. For that I can have more patience. For that our relationship will last long enough for me to see and appreciate the fleeting moments of pleasant behavior that do surface from her on occasion.
Perhaps we all have very difficult people in our families. How do you cope?
On that note, I will leave thoughts of family struggles alone for today, and return to the celebration of a certain darling boy child that can bring out smiles even on the darkest of days. :)